Entry 91

I 'member one time I had a Twitter friend who was also into Elder Scrolls, and I says to her in a DM "I erect the spine of greeting", because that's how Argonians talk, and I think she thought I was being inappropriately lewd, so she blocked me.

I mean there was an implied sexual connotation, but I misjudged her okayness with it. I meant it as like a joke, and not that I was being a thirsty creep in her DMs.

And I mean she's made sexual comments in her posts before and had been forthright about wanting to have sex with certain NPCs, so I thought it would be taken the way I intended, but I guess people are complicated in what they think is appropriate for a given context.

I felt like I had a sufficiently established internet friendship with her and that there was a mutual understanding, but when I think about it she didn't really know me that well, and I didn't know her as well as I felt like I did. Sometimes the Internet creates this illusion that you know someone more than you actually do. There is a name for this phenomenon but it eludes me at the moment.

It's different when it's a guy (me) talking to a woman (her), rather than, say, her talking to another woman. I failed to be sensitive to that fact. I'm more open and comfortable expressing my thoughts/feelings on the internet, and sometimes this amounted to not being mindful of boundaries. I think I should be more like I am in person and let the other person set the appropriateness boundaries. I mean, the Internet is also real life in ways that we ought to not take for granted.

Ah well. You Live And You Learn™.